Is Being Angry Ever Good?

By Connie Limon

Some psychologists who study anger say anger does have a positive side. For example:

Anger helps clarify relationship problems;

Anger helps finalize business deals;

Anger fuels political agendas;

Anger can give people a sense of control during an uncertain situation;

Anger can cause an entire culture to change for the better as with the womens suffrage movement.

In certain situations anger can be defined as being constructive rather than destructive and helpful in solving problems.

When using the Bible definition of anger we see that the Bible teaches us anger is an emotion we all feel at some point in time and that anger itself is not the villain, but what we do when we become angry is what defines whether or not anger is constructive or destructive. Bible scripture says: Be ye angry, but sin not. I believe this to mean if we become angry at our neighbor, our spouse, friend, enemy or stranger and shoot to kill and do murder that person, we have responded in a destructive manner as according to our earthly knowledge and also committed a sin in the eyes of the God of Heaven and Jesus Christ his son. To handle this same type of anger in a constructive manner both in accordance to the laws of man and the laws of God we would end up helping to clarify a relationship problem, or finalize a business deal, or change something in our neighborhood or family for the better. An example also might be forming a neighborhood watch against the neighborhood population that insists on breaking into homes and robbing.

Psychologist continues to study and examine how anger can aid intimate relationships, work interactions and political expressions, but agree there is no one definition of what constructive anger actually is.

Anger has a bad reputation partly because of the violence that is associated with episodes of anger. However, it has been noted that aggression is not always followed by anger, and that lots of aggression occurs without any anger.

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A number of studies show anger is often beneficial in domestic life. In fact it has been found that angry episodes helped strengthen relationships about half the time. I would suppose all relationships strengthen by episodes of anger were those in which members became angry, but sinned not. There probably were no black eyes or broken bones as a result of the anger expressions and episodes!

Who is more likely to use anger destructively?

Children who witness their parents using violence against each other and who regularly receive excessive punishment may be more at risk of being involved in an abusive relationship as an adult and using anger destructively rather than constructively. Research also shows that this type of misuse of anger toward a romantic partner is difficult to change and that more needs to be done to develop prevention programs to identify major risk factors for partner violence before adult relationships develop.

Studies also find that a history of physical abuse by a caretaker may increase the chances of using similar techniques of conflict solving in adult close relationships.

Of these two above situations, however, some researchers feel that exposure to violence between parents poses the greatest independent risk for being the victim of any act of partner violence. So that the greater of these two evils would be a child exposed to violence between parents from a very young age rather than being the actual one abused by one or both of the caretakers.

Prevention Programs May Be the Key for At Risk Individuals

There has been no sex differences found in predictors of partner violence. Both males and females who were abused as children and/or displayed conduct disorders as adolescents were found to be at risk for partner violence. Therefore, prevention programs should not just target the boys.

Prevention Programs could be created by individuals who were at risk as children and are still angry as adults. This would be another example of using that anger in a constructive manner rather than continuing the cycle of violence as a respond to anger.

Below is a list of some further resources you may want to explore regarding handling anger constructively and Anger Prevention Programs:

Dr. John Rifkin- Emotional Success- The Healing Power Of Anger Dr. Rifkin explores the childhood roots of anger, the spectrum of angry behavior, how anger can be a gift to a relationship, and ice-cold passive-aggressive anger. He also discusses angers links to addictions, anxiety, mood disorders, and difficulties with emotional intimacy. Readers will come away with new insights into their emotions and behavior and new skills for using their anger in a healthy, functional manner.

PREP Prevention & Relationship Enhancement Program Web Site – This site contains workshops and great information about the principles of handling conflict in relationships. It’s where I learned wonderful lessons on the simplicity of just following the structure of some well researched methods that the authors have laid out in their book ‘Fighting for Your Marriage’.

Family Dynamics Training Family Dynamics helps churches take proactive steps to prevent marriages from reaching a state of distress and to revive those that are already in distress.

Welcome to Marriage Builders – Covers some of the best ways to overcome marital conflicts and some of the quickest ways to restore love.

RETROUVAILLE International Home Page – A Catholic group that helps troubled marriages. They have a wonderful self help approach that involves sponsor couples and periodic workshops.

Nationwide Marriage Counseling & Family Therapy Directory The internet’s largest directory of marriage counselors and family therapists with answers to common questions about counseling, articles related to marriage counseling & family therapy as well as recent news.

AngerMgmt.com – Anger Management skills and products.

Growth Central – Anger management and addiction resources. This is a great site containing a wealth of self help resources!

Focus On Your Child- Help for angry moms.

CompleteMarriages.com- provides access to online marriage advice and phone marriage counseling to help couples build marriage and save marriage. We offer the following services: marriage seminars, online free marriage club, telephone marriage counseling and professional marriage workshops.

MarriageMatters.com Online marriage counseling or phone counseling. I have no experience with this group and would appreciate any feedback or information.

CouplesCoaching Interactive – The Fitness Program to Strengthen Your Relationship Muscles. Developed by David Wilchfort MD especially for the internet, COUPLE COACHING is a program designed to help couples resolve relationship conflicts. This is the English adaptation of the successful German version.

Dr. Debra Mandel – Los Angeles Therapist – She speaks about how our old wounds keep resurfacing in our love relationships using her book’s theme: Healing the Sensitive Heart.

Free Relationship Advice- This site has a ton of free advice about relationships.

Anger Coach ANGER AND STRESS MANAGEMENT SOLUTIONS: Anger and Stress Management resources and classes (Southern California) for Workplace, Adults, and Couples. Fast-Track Classes for busy people. Book and Home-study course. Free newsletter.

Family & Marriage Counseling Directory – National directory of family and marriage counseling therapists. View profiles of family and marriage counselors nationwide. Articles & resources to help couples and families locate and evaluate a couples therapist.

As Jesus would say: be ye angry, but sin not. And according to earthly knowledge many people have dedicated their lives to helping others learn ways to cope with anger constructively.

For some wise advice I received from my dear deceased father who was somewhat violent toward my mother: Where there is a will there is always a way. I dont hold anything against them for their violence toward each other. My mothers tongue was violent. My father was violent physically. However, I do know firsthand my childhood experiences with them were not always pleasant. I still cope with the wounds and try to heal from it all. So..I suppose my entire website of Self Improvement Book is one way I am handling some of my childhood anger constructively. I hope the website is helpful to others.

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Self Improvement Book is a guide to information about self improvement, personal growth and self help tips. It is an organized directory referencing information in other websites on the World Wide Web.

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Reliv International And You A Company Overview

By SANDRA ESSEX

The Company:

It was started by Robert L. Montgomery. He became Chairman of the Board of Directors and CEO of Reliv International Inc. on February 15, 1985, and Its President on July 1, 1985

This 24-year-old company was founded with a fundamental goal: to Nourish Our Would. It is a food supplement and wellness company that endeavors to make complex nutrition simple, by integrating latest nutrition research into products that are scientifically advanced, nutritionally complete, and balanced in such a synergistic manner as to optimize potency and effectiveness.

From state-of-the-art manufacturing and research facilities to unique compensation structure, Reliv International lays emphasis on improving lives and lifestyles around the world. The company strives to achieve these goals through their products, a charitable foundation, and the opportunities they offer to people. It now boasts of 65,000 distributors in 14 countries spread across four continents.

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The MLM OpportunityMaking Money with Reliv

Relivs compensation plan is seen as one of the most innovative in the industry. So, if you have a clearly definable financial goal, Reliv offers to power up your earning potential with five different ways to earn an income. Each of the income avenues offers you reward for each aspect of your business:

You can choose to join by paying between $300 – $3000 dollars as a distributor for Reliv International. When you first start you will earn 25% of your personal retail sales.

Then, as your business organization or downline sales volume increases you will be paid 5% to 20% on your downline sales. You are paid by how you master your network marketing system and touch others to do the same because you make money on the production of the people you sponsor under you. Reliv International also pays you Overrides, for the leaders that will recruit and build a huge team. You will start off as a distributor and your goal is to reach the Ambassador level

My Own Opinion:

Could you profit by becoming a Reliv Independent Distributor? The success stories from real people who report that theyre enjoying better lives as a result of taking up Reliv distributorship would suggest that this companys products and compensation plans are real. They present a real business opportunity for those who take the time to understand the system and implement the strategies that use attraction marketing.

The Reliv product line is a quality health product. For any entrepreneur looking to be successful in Reliv you will need to learn how to effectively market your business. There are many other healthy products out there that will be competing for the same customer base. If you would like to learn how to EXPLODE your business and attract quality leaders to your Reliv business you need to learn how to brand yourself as a leader.

And for these group of individualscurrent and prospective MLM distributorsthe company has an array of sales and presentation tools to help them succeed. Designed in conjunction with some of Relivs most successful network marketing distributors, these tools simplify the business for both the veteran and an upstart network marketer, while at the same time adding both impact and credibility to these sales strategies.

If you would like to learn how to market and attract quality leaders to your Reliv business visit my website and blog for more information on Lead Generation tips.

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Staying Away From Asbestos: Dos And Don’ts Inside The House

By Marcus Stromms

The dangers of asbestos have been uncovered by many cases of both unrecorded and recorded heath problems and deaths. There are also many settlement cases documenting the harsh effects of asbestos to human health. Your home might be contaminated with this mineral. What should you do?

Staying Away from Asbestos: Dos and Don’ts Inside the House

Without your knowledge, your house might be contaminated with asbestos – a mineral that is known to cause different kinds of respiratory diseases like mesothelioma, pleural thickening, and asbestosis. If you are unsure of the level of asbestos contamination in your house, the following dos and don’ts will help you stay away from the dangers.

1. Keep minimal movements and other activities in damaged areas where asbestos might be present. This will keep contamination at a minimum level too.

2. Gently perform actions in areas where asbestos is present. This will help avoid damages to asbestos-containing materials preventing the release of thin strands and powder into the air.

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3. Ask the help of builders with asbestos removal services when it comes to major repairs of asbestos-containing materials. They are skilled and well-trained to do the job in a safe manner.

4. Spare yourself from activities like dusting, sweeping, and vacuuming of debris and other waste particles that may contain asbestos.

5. Surfaces with asbestos such as floors and walls need to be spared from sanding, scrubbing, and drilling activities. These activities will scrape covering and cause asbestos fibres to be released into the air.

6. Avoid the use of power strippers on asbestos-ladden surfaces such as vinyl asbestos. Cleansers such as these are very strong and have the tendency to uncover the asbestos strands.

7. Evade sanding asbestos surfaces to make it on level. This process will contribute to the powdering of asbestos, making it more dangerous to your family’s health.

8. Steer clear of minor repairs when you deem you will not be able to handle asbestos-containing materials properly. Let professional builders and asbestos removers handle the task for you.

9. Never try to fix asbestos-containing roof shingles yourself. This process requires high levels of security that can be done by professional asbestos removers. They can also fix gutters properly, avoiding damages on asbestos-containing ceilings and roofs.

10. Let alone licensed asbestos removers perform sampling methods on materials suspected of containing asbestos. Doing-it-yourself might disturb the material and immediately release powdered asbestos dust. Trying to be an asbestos remover can highly endanger your family’s health when in fact none could have existed when you let professionals do the job.

To conclude, there are things that must be done and must be avoided by homeowners in order to spare themselves and their families from the risks posed by the disturbance of asbestos-containing materials.

In Australia, particularly in Brisbane, there are many professional builders that offer asbestos removal as one of their primary services. In fact, these builders, such as QHI have dedicated teams that can do asbestos inspection, assessment, containment, removal, and disposal of asbestos in specific parts of the house. With them, you are assured that wherever asbestos might be in your house – in floors walls, ceilings, roofs, gutters, and plumbing systems – they can be safely handled and removed.

About the Author: Marcus Stromms works in collaboration with Brisbane

builders

and asbestos removers. As an advocate on the total ban of asbestos, he provides numerous materials regarding the health risks associated with the use of asbestos. In some instances, he also writes home improvement tips and suggestions regarding

gutters,

driveways, painting, and plumbing tasks.

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